Don't neglect your loved ones

[Mr. Guy]

I have a sad tale to tell. Last Monday after getting home from being out of town for a week I found some PMs here on Motocampers. They were from my high school sweetheart and she had seen my post and wondered if it was me. I had ended our relationship in a bad way and had never been very good at expressing my feelings and apparently not worth a crap at expressing them to her. She just wondered what happened. So I just want to remind all my friends here, that's all of you, remind those that you love that you do when ever you can. And to her I want to say I'm sorry.

Guy

[G wizz]

Aw Gee, Mr Guy,
That was so sweet. I hope your old flame reads your post.
Who knows, maybe sparks will fly again.
You gotta find out if she likes motorcycles and camping though.
Good luck.

[Mr. Guy]

No, no sparks will be flying, but at least we're on speaking terms. To many times we don't realize until it's to late that we should have been better friends or didn't express ourselves well enough. Sometimes, it's because of a death and then there are no second chances, I was lucky enough to get a second chance to try to be a better friend.

Guy

[Trekker]

Guy, good on you and your friend for reaching out. Please try not to beat yourself up over this. We are all human, and have flaws. What makes us unique is our self awareness and our capacity to love and forgive. Earlier in 2007 I was contacted by friends from my teen years that I treated badly way back when. They welcomed my wife & I into their home as if no years had passed. The joy of forgiveness is overwhelming sometimes!

[Ironheadziggy76]

Well played Guy! I'm glad you two got hooked back up, sometimes that's all it takes to start a great friendship. They say time heals all wounds, but I'm still waiting. I still to this day have one thing that haunts me about a cousin of mine who was a dear friend. We worked together and were also close after work, we usually called each other every day if we didn't see each other at work. His wife left him to pursue a more active party lifestyle, and he seemed to be doing fine with it. He talked about starting over and getting to spend more quality time with his son. The day his divorce was final he killed himself. I had called him that afternoon to see how he was doing, and his Dad answered the phone and told me the terrible news. To this day I still wonder if there was something I could have said or done to prevent this.

[okc_native]

Guy,

I'm sure she had long forgiven you. She probably just wanted to see that you were happy and healthy, and had moved on with your life. Keeping in touch with each other from now on sounds like a good idea. Who knows maybe there is a tiny spark there.

okc_native

[Mr. Guy]

Thanks everyone, Your words mean a lot to me.

Guy

[Tx White Knight]

Guy, it is a good thing you are communicating again, I got a email from one of my class mates last week and one of the girls is not doing well with chemo so we are sending emails to try and cheer her up on her birthday next week.
btw my class had 38 kids in it so we all know each other very well but over they years we drift apart.

Thanks for the reminder.

:tent5:

[moodygne]

If you have kids let them know you are proud of them, and let them know you love them.If you have a wife , don't take her for granted. Let her know how special she is. Tell her how much you love her. I know, I almost died of a heart attack. I lay there in the hospital wondering if they knew how much I really do care. I almost didn't get a second chance. Another thing get right with God, He was there with me.

[okc_native]

Gary,

Glad that everything turned out well for you. I agree, you really need to let your loved ones know how special they are to you. I would also make sure that you try to capture them in photos. I know it seems like we do that, but sometimes the photos aren't the best. My grandmother passed away in 2004, I have several photos of her, but most are side shots or she is in the background. I cherish the one of the two of us, and see it everyday in my kitchen.

Take care,

okc_native

[moodygne]

Gary,

Glad that everything turned out well for you. I agree, you really need to let your loved ones know how special they are to you. I would also make sure that you try to capture them in photos. I know it seems like we do that, but sometimes the photos aren't the best. My grandmother passed away in 2004, I have several photos of her, but most are side shots or she is in the background. I cherish the one of the two of us, and see it everyday in my kitchen.

Take care,

okc_native

Good advice, Thank you.

[G wizz]

I agree about taking plenty of pictures of your loved ones ... :takepics1:
Over the years, I've lost both a wife, and a son.
Now, that's all I have, is pictures of them ... that, and the precious memories of good times we had together.

G wizz

[moodygne]

I agree about taking plenty of pictures of your loved ones ... :takepics1:
Over the years, I've lost both a wife, and a son.
Now, that's all I have, is pictures of them ... that, and the precious memories of good times we had together.

G wizz

God bless you. I don't know how or if I could handle that.